Working on being the best possible version of yourself is inherently worthwhile, but it doesn’t hurt that it’s likely to make you irresistible to members of the opposite sex, too.
Whether it’s having immaculate style, perfect pecs or witty banter, there are certain types of guys that women really, really like to be with. Dear men, if you’re one of the lucky men with all the right characteristics, you can make a woman fall for you without a lot of trouble.
1. A man who cares for her
Don’t wait till something bad happens to show her that you care about her. You can prove your feelings by doing little things like asking her to text you when she gets home, reminding her to get something to eat, and just generally checking in on her. This will show that you have her back and that you generally think about her well being. While it is nice to show up on her doorstep with a brilliant bouquet of flowers, these little things also go a long way.
2. A man who is truthful
Something that should go without saying, it is important to be truthful in all your relationships. If you lie to her, she will definitely find out that you did. Let her know that you’re spending an evening with your guy friends rather than making up something about having a lot to finish up at the office. She’ll trust you more if you just tell her the truth. If you tell a lie, she’ll know and you don’t want to ruin your relationship like that now, do you?
3. A man who is hot
Speaking of the superficial, we won’t beat around the bush with this one: women, on the whole, like good looking men. Surprise! We live in a looks-obsessed time and culture, and there’s no getting around the fact that men who are genetically blessed will struggle far less than the rest when it comes to women.
Men with washboard abs and defined jawlines will attract the attention of the opposite sex, there’s no doubt about that. Fortunately, though, for more humble looking men, it’s rarely the be all and end all for women, and the old cliché about personality mattering most definitely rings true. Still, if you have been told you have gorgeous eyes or sexy legs, those are worthwhile things to have in your arsenal of attractive qualities, too.
4. A man who perseveres
Women really are more complex than you think. If she is saying ‘no’, she’s not really saying it. However, you shouldn’t assume that she’s saying ‘yes’. She might just be testing you to see if you care enough to work towards getting her to say ‘yes’ to you. Now is the time for you to persevere and stick it out to prove to her that you are worthy of that ‘yes’.
5. A man who stays Optimistic
Yea it can be difficult to stay positive when there’s a guy holding you up with a gun so he can rob you but, besides that, you need to look at issues with optimism. This will prove to her that you can think outside the box and actually solve problems when needed. It won’t help your case if she thinks you’re a negative person. Suspicion and doubt don’t do any good in a relationship.
6. A man who is funny
Humor is a social lubricant and an aphrodisiac, and it’s pretty much universally attractive, but funny men are particularly desirable in a culture that’s still getting used to the idea of funny women (come on!). Genuinely funny guys have the ability to put people at ease and soothe social tensions; they’re a joy to be around and make attractive potential romantic partners.
Humor is something people are often blessed with from birth (or from the families they grow up in), but it is possible to work on being funnier, too. Don’t force it, though, and don’t be too confrontational with your humor: being “shocking” or “edgy” for the sake of it is not the same as being genuinely funny, and offensive jokes are pretty passé these days.
If you’ve always had the ability to make people around you giggle, that’s a precious gift that you should continue to cultivate, and it will serve you well in your endeavors with women.
7. A man who is generous
Generosity is an appealing quality in anyone, but there’s definitely a traditional, gendered appeal to a man who can provide for “his woman” (that is, financially). These kinds of ideas are increasingly outdated and more than a little sexist, but there’s a nugget of truth worth saving in the traditional model: Generosity is appealing, and it doesn’t have to be tied to traditional gender roles, or even to money.
You can be generous in other ways if you’re not exactly rolling in cash: with your time, with compliments, or with the positivity and good energy you bring to situations. Being free with the things you have in abundance — whether that’s money, time, a helping hand, whatever — will make you a great person to be around full stop, and it certainly won’t hurt your romantic prospects, either.
8. A man who supports
Encourage her when she needs it and be around in case she needs your help. Offering your support and telling her that she’s fully capable of achieving her goals will mean a lot to her. Even if it is not your cup of tea, show her that you appreciate her passions and that you’ve got her back. Help her work towards her goals and don’t let her carry all her burdens by herself.