Why you should never snoop through your partner’s phone
1. You’ll slip up at some point
Little details will be discovered, like conversations with friends and family, random emails, and social media messages. You’re going to have a lot of new information bestowed upon you all at once. Maybe these aren’t major secrets, but they could be. Knowing someone’s deepest darkest secrets without them knowing is pretty terrifying.
Of course you’re most likely going to find something. But not finding anything usually leads to more questions than answers. Let’s say you don’t find any secrets. What if you’re just conversing with your partner a while later, and you bring up some information you wouldn’t have known unless you went through their phone? Your partner may look at you strange, an awkwardness will ensue … and now you’ve put yourself in an uncomfortable predicament.
2. You’re violating their privacy
Over a decade ago when the Patriot Act was enacted , many people felt their privacy was going to be violated. An uneasy feeling of a stranger listening in on calls, reading texts/emails just did not sit right with the American public. This is a normal reaction, as any person should have a right to their privacy. We are all individuals and being in a relationship does not change that. Sharing is one thing, but violating privacy, without one’s knowing is sure to cause guilt and shame, if anything.
3. You’re also breaking their trust.
We all know how important trust is in a relationship. The main question that should be asked is what are you trying to find? At this point, there may be other problems in your relationship, so the important thing to do is to be mature and communicate before this even becomes a thought. Why bother being with your partner at all, if there is no trust? Love is scary, but it should have rules. And when rules are broken, chaos ensues. Next time you think about reaching for that phone, stop. Don’t do it to yourself. And most importantly, don’t do it to them.