Have you seen couples in a relationship, who love each other, cherish each but still you find that chєαt? Some people think that chєαting should only be for people who are not contented. But this is not the case. Here are 6 exclusive reasons why people in happy relationships still chєαt according to Relate counsellor, Martin Burrow and Sarah Ryan, director of matchmaking agency Simantov International.
1. The chєαt is not sure what they want for themselves.
It can be difficult to know what you want – even when you’re perfectly happy with your partner, it might seem the grass is greener in singledom.
Burrow says: “Many of us seek security and stability which a long-term relationship can bring, whilst simultaneously longing for the adventure and excitement of a new partner. These two basic needs can feel conflicting and very confusing,” – and this confusion can lead people to stray.
2. The chєαt wants to be sure they are with the right person.
Your partner might be sure they are happy being in a relationship, rather than playing the field, but if they are romantically inexperienced, they may wonder whether they are with the right person.
“Romanticism would have us believe there’s one ideal partner out there who will meet all our needs to the point when we’d never as much as look at another person,” says Burrow.
“The reality is there’s no such thing as the perfect partner or the perfect relationship, the idea of perfection is nothing more than that – an idea.”
3. The chєαt thinks all ѕєχυαℓ attraction must lead to action.
Everyone knows it is very easy to present a flawless version of ourselves to the outside world, and this gets a little harder when we let our guard down and get close to people.
As a result, there are probably going to be days when you want to jump into bed with your partner less than an exciting stranger, but that doesn’t mean you have to act on your impulses.
“It Is completely natural for us (and our partners) to find other people attractive in all sorts of ways, including ѕєχυαℓℓy ,” says Burrow.
“Often we’ll be attracted to somebody because they bring out an aspect of our personality that our partner doesn’t. People may then start to worry that they aren’t with the right person and can be tempted to chєαt.”
4. The chєαt is separating ѕєχυαℓ infidєℓity from love.
There are different types of chєαting- emotional, physical, or even a long-term affair – but if your partner is ‘just’ having ѕєχ they might see what they are doing as separate to what the two of you share together.
Ryan says: “Some people have strong beliefs that ѕєχ and love are two things that are not intertwined and so in their mind being physical has nothing to do with the amount they are emotionally committed, hence, they enter into a ѕєχυαℓ relationship with someone else outside of their existing relationship.”
5. The chєαt is bored.
People may succumb to the lure of something exciting and novel, even if they are otherwise happy.
“We live in a world where our senses are constantly stimulated, our attention spans have dwindled in a digital age to that less than goldfish of fewer than eight seconds,“says Ryan.
“I can only imagine how that affects the way we communicate in relationships and our desire to always want more, despite being in what to the casual onlooker seems to be a happy, healthy and committed relationship.
“If we are constantly seeking to be stimulated it makes sense that relationships will be affected and those with the inclination to chєαt might feel compelled to do just that due to sheer boredom and perceived lack of thrill in their life.”
6. The chєαt just had an opportunity.
You might not want to hear it, but it seems that even in the happiest of relationships, sometimes people don’t have enough willpower to resist an opportunity.
“Now, with the ease with which you can contact somebody you like via instant messaging, text or email, there’s never been so much opportunity to chєαt. Add alcohol to the mix and you’ve got a recipe for deceit,” says Burrow.
Reference: huffingtonpost.co.uk
