It has been known that men are unfaithful to their wives from times as ancient as the mythologies. Obviously, we do not mean all men are like this, but history is proof that many of them are. There could be a lot of reasons behind this action of theirs, but whatever the reason might be, it is something that is totally unethical and unacceptable. However, often the wives do a very strange thing when they find out that their husband is having an 𝖆𝖋𝖋𝖆𝖎𝖗. They blame only the other woman, curse her and call her all sorts of bad names, and not their own spouse who too broke the barriers of trust and commitment. Do you wonder why that is so? Well, here are some valid explanations for why wives react this way.
1. The other woman took him away from you
Your husband is the one who walked out of the marriage and committed to someone else by choice. But, to you only the other woman seems to be the reason why he is not with you today, the way he vowed to be forever. She will always be the one who stole him away from you.
2. You see the act of chєαtíng as a personal rejection.
You begin to compare yourself to her in an effort to make yourself a better catch. After all, you’re prettier and smarter than her! It’s necessary to see her as a cold-hearted monster that set out to destroy your life if you’re looking at her in comparison to yourself.
3. Then you realise you are better than her
You feel she has no morals or character because you know for a fact that you would never date a married man and break up a home, come what may!
4. It’s too hard to accept that he betrayed you.
Hating and shaming the other woman is much easier than admitting that your man is treating you like dirt. And that he chose to hurt you that way. He’s OK with getting his needs met at your expense.
5. You convince yourself that your husband would never have cheated if not for her
Yes, even after being cheated upon, you are as silly as that to believe in something like that. Girl, if he chєαtєd on you with one woman, he would do it irrespective of whether it was her or anyone else.
6. You don’t want to face your own flaws.
It’s hard to admit that you made the wrong decision to trust your spouse. After all, you love him and want him in your life, so it’s hard to see him as the villain.
7. She broke your family
That is the jist of it all. She broke your beautiful family, and you would love to believe your innocent husband had nothing to do with it. No! A reality check is what you need, girl! Time to wake up and think straight!
8. You believe that once she’s gone, you’ll return to living happily ever after.
This is a common form of denial. You’re not emotionally ready to let go of your ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ husband or the notion that your marriage is safe and happy.
9. It is easier and safer to blame her than your husband
Because you love him and maybe want him back even after this. You know he would have had some reasons and the love you have for him will eventually make you forgive him. She however, still remains that woman who took him away from you and broke your family.