Anyone who has been in love knows that letting go of a relationship that no longer serves you can be difficult. The heart persists even when your head tells you it is time to call it quits.
Relationships are generally challenging, and one may hold on to the hope that a tough season in the relationship will come to pass. But for some people, it never gets better, and the status of their relationship doesn’t change or improve over time. If you’re feeling as if you’re stuck in this place, searching for signs as to whether or not to break up, check out the list of go-to signs we’ve compiled for when it’s time to bite the bullet and end the relationship.
1. You don’t trust each other any more.
Trust is one of the most important parts of any relationship and when you lose that, it’s almost certainly time to end the relationship.
If there’s mutual distrust on either side, it can lead to absolute crumbling of the relationship and the foundations it was built on, causing jealousy, anger, possessiveness and other negative feelings to leak free and poison the already tenuous relationship. Hitting this point is very hard to come back from and one of the reasons it might be right to end the relationship.
2. You no longer have any fun.
A relationship should be responsible and grown up as well as fun, so there should always be a balancing of both sides. Being responsible and able to cut loose means you have the best of both worlds. If you’ve grown tired of the relationship, you’ve got to realize life is way too short to be with someone who doesn’t appreciate the same sort of fun you have, and if you’ve had this discussion more than enough times without gaining any compromise or leeway, it might be right to end the relationship.
3. You fantasize about life with someone else.
Everyone fantasizes – it’s a part of human nature, the ability to dream and creatively envision that which may or may not have been, or all that could have been, in either a positive or negative way. However, it begins to negatively affect your relationship when you cannot channel your energies into being in a relationship with your current significant other, instead choosing to daydream about a life with someone else – or, more honestly, anyone else.
4. You can’t see a future with him or her.
If you cannot imagine a future with this person, then it brings about the question about why you are in the relationship to begin with and why you’re choosing to remain in a situation with which you have little emotional investment.
That isn’t to say having casual relationships are stupid or pointless – they can be fun and an enjoyable experience – but if you’re in a full-on, long-term relationship with someone, the idea of spending the rest of your life with this person has to be a large contributing factor to the relationship. If you’re not seeing or wanting to envision a future with this person, then it’s time to end the relationship and move on.
5. A lack of s*e*x and intimacy
This is a really common relationship problem — although not necessarily one that needs to lead to the end of a relationship.
According to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, the s*e*xual honeymoon phase of new relationships tends to last about 2-3 years. After that, things can be hard work.
One thing women can do right now to improve the physical connection with their man is to get inside his head.
When it comes to s*e*x and intimacy, what does he really want from you?
Men don’t necessarily want a woman who’s a firecracker in bed. Or one with a big chest and flat tummy.
Instead, he wants his prowess validated. To feel like he’s doing his ‘job’ as a man.
