What Men Want: 7 Traits Men Look For In The Women Of Their Dreams
For years, we’ve talked about finding the right woman — someone we can ride the waves of life with, who will stand by our side for better or for worse.
As a man, committing to The One is among the most important decisions we make in life; some may even argue it is the most important.
The woman we decide to share our world with is the one who will mother our children, help us plan life, pick us up when we’re down and make us better men than we are right now.
But, what does the right woman look like in our eyes?
For years, women have been sharing what they want in men, but there’s this widely-held stereotype that all we want is the so-called “trophy wife.” I don’t agree with that notion.
You see, there’s so much that should go into deciding whom to share your life with — characteristics, in a sense, that stand the test of time.
So what do we, men, want from a woman?
Being really beautiful has nothing to do with your appearance, but with everything you are.
I met many beautiful women in my life whose personalities were as sexy as the dirty concrete of a New York subway station.
I’m sorry, but it’s true.
We want people who spend a lot of time and energy making sure they look good and that they are sincere and real. You know, “this girl” are you with your girlfriends?
It’s really you. Do not hesitate to be with us.
We see you laughing without control with your friends, so laugh with us. We love women who have humor and do not take life so seriously.
Be yourself, order a cheeseburger for lunch. Get some ketchup on your face.
Put some sweat and a t-shirt when we come. Skip the makeup and do not do your hair. Everything is fine we really like it.
You know this song from Drake when it says “sweatpants, hair tied, chillin” without makeup, so you’re the most beautiful … “?
Well, he’s right.
We like to dress and feel good, but know that you do not have to remove a switch from your personality to reach our acceptance.
If there is a moment when you feel the need to do it, you are only with the wrong man.
How you run says a lot about who you are.
Wearing clothes that emphasize your body is not new and I do not think it’s disrespectful. But I will not go there.
In today’s society, there is something called social media, and it’s basically your resume for men. Where you go, who you go with, what you say and how you say, it reflects you as an individual.
And frankly, men do not want someone who is everywhere to do something with everyone.
Little boys who want the popular girl do not like it, but real men do not play these games.
You can not respect a man if you do not respect yourself. This is not a success, but seriously, how could this be possible?
We prefer the woman who stays at home and reads a book instead of getting drunk with her friends on weekends. We prefer that the life of the man remains rather reserved, because that makes them more fascinating.
The less we know about a person’s life, the more interesting this person becomes. It forces us to engage, to ask, to seek.
Our discussions with you are gaining substance and will be attractive.
If we know where you are and what you have done, where are you staying?
Men are very physical people. Everything for us gets up with touch. We are naturally attracted to that.
It goes without saying that a very free woman with her gifts of love will seduce us. It is very hot and invites to a man.
Just like you, we want a woman to grab our hand; We want you to come and kiss us by chance. We want you to embrace us and ask us how was our day. This is reminiscent of that feeling of being sought after.
This only strengthens the relationship we have with you and opens up channels of communication, but we feel especially welcome.
A stimulating conversation makes a man crazy.
Smart women know so much about the world around them, but also want to make it a better place.
They think critically and appeal to our senses. In addition, they have this will to succeed, which in itself may be the biggest turnaround.
There’s more to life than the latest handbag, designer shoe or the next episode of your favorite reality show.
We too are guilty of bombarding football on Sunday or even of having forced you to watch the sports center every night.
The choices we face in life can often disrupt us and knowing someone with us can make the right decisions.
This does not require a Harvard degree or any other degree, but only intellect, reason and understanding.
Life is hard
Every day is a tough fight, and having a confident woman by your side is the key to following your dreams.
A woman who loves herself, regardless of her own flaws, will love a man for all of his. Beyond loving you, she will knock down the doors of resistance and reach for the stars with you.
There’s something sexy about a confident woman, and it has nothing to do with looks.
To be truthful, we don’t notice every one of your flaws. You know, the ones you spend hours in the mirror pointing out to yourself.
If we found ourselves attracted to you, know that we aren’t analyzing every inch of your body to find perfection. That doesn’t exist, and we aren’t looking for it.
Knowing she understands her worth is innately appealing. In essence, you’re looking at someone who can complement you, not just be a trophy at your side.
She knows what she wants and isn’t waiting for you to give it to her.
Beyond that, she’s content with herself and her body.
As crazy as it may sound, confidence is something we can feel from a sexual point of view. It’s almost like an energy that draws us in and makes for an even better sexual experience.
Men love to be caretakers and “planners” for our families, but we also love a woman who can plan that life with us. We don’t want to have to make every decision alone. We need a visionary, one who can see beyond today.
Determined women are more committed, simply due to the fact that they have laser focus.
There are no uncertainties about their futures because they understand what it takes to get there.
Failure isn’t a choice for them.
Ultimately, a woman who is willing to push forward to be the best mother to her children or have a successful career is one who will strive for a successful relationship.
When things get tough, she won’t be so easy to quit and walk away. If she lacks ambition, however, odds are that result might look a bit different.
Aspiring people, in general, usually figure out how to make things work.
Naturally, humble people focus their energies outward. When searching for a life partner, this becomes very attractive to a man.
Humble women exude this compassion for others, putting others’ happiness before their own. But, they do this in such a way that brings them peace and protection.
Knowing that someone has this desire to put us first immediately shows that your ego won’t get in the way of creating a strong partnership.
I think we understand the whole “let’s play hard to get” mentality, but tell me how wasting all of that energy really serves you well? It doesn’t.
If we decide to tell you how we feel about you, or even tell you how beautiful we think you are, don’t look at us as if we have 10 heads.
It takes a tremendous amount of courage to do that.
Be humble and have the decency to acknowledge it, even if you don’t necessarily feel the same way.
There’s this misconception that looks, popularity or even social status will find you true love, but it won’t.
So, stop trying. What matters is whom you are — that’s what a real man wants.
Just you, flaws and all.