Things you feel when you’re in the right Relationship
1. Mutual feeling & attraction
First and foremost, without attraction, your relationship may not be right for you.
If you are in a relationship where the feeling, as well as attraction, is nowhere close to mutual, it shows that obviously indicates you are with the wrong person and in the wrong relationship.
“Attraction requires polarity, a push and pull, some degree of tension, in order to ignite the spark.”
Without that spark, it’s going to be difficult to be happy long-term.
Yes, it is true that oftentimes one person could love the other more initially but eventually, they could both grow to a point of mutualism because after all love does grow.
But then, if after a reasonable amount of time and the feelings are far from mutual then the earlier you call it quit, the better it would be for you both.
So, if the feelings are mutual then its one signal that you are in the right relationship.
2. You can be yourself
If being with this person feels like having to put on a show and change your character or putting on a song-and-dance in an elaborate attempt to impress your partner, then you are in the wrong relationship.
A relationship that feels like you are acting a part and not actually being you is a fake relationship.
When You’re not thrilled about having to learn all the things they are interested in, and they don’t even try to do the same with your interests or you begin to feel stupid for being who you are.
No relationship is worth sacrificing who you are!
When you are in the right relationship there is absolutely no need for pretence, no need trying so hard to prove a point, no need trying to impress so much, no need trying to be someone else, you are not too much or too little of anything because every bit of you is just enough.
You don’t have to hide any parts of yourself.
You don’t have to ignore any of your values, likes, hobbies, ideas…etc.
You don’t put each other down because you accept each other’s differences and respect them.
3. You Help Each Other Grow
In the right relationship, you and your partner are nurtured to continuously improve and develop themselves.
You should be in a relationship that makes you a better version of yourself rather than the opposite.
You help each other in so many ways.
Your partner shows you things you didn’t know, teaches you valuable lessons, encourages you to follow your dreams and to listens to yourself.
A relationship where you can both learn from each other and grow.
A relationship where you both act as a motivating factor to yourselves to do better.
A relationship where mere looking at your spouse makes you want to become a better man or woman.
A relationship that adds value to you.
Be it romantic or platonic, any relationship that plays a role in your growth is a relationship that’s definitely worth keeping.
4. Peace of mind and Trust
In fact, if you really want to test your relationship start by testing the state of your mind.
Peace of mind in a relationship is pretty much very underrated.
People don’t seem to know how important having peace of mind in a relationship is.
If you have got this then you are in the right relationship. (PS: lack of peace of mind here is different from your personal insecurities)
This peace of mind could also come in the form of trust.
When there are total trust and no need for any snooping around.
Like going through your significant other’s texts, emails, Facebook messages, etc.
That may not feel like a warning sign, but needing to poke around is definitely not positive in any relationship.
If you don’t feel the need to go through his/her stuff or second guess their every statement in doubt, then that means you two have built up a level of trust that lets you know how much your partner care.
5. Good Communication & Comfortable Silences
When you are always open, honest, and direct with each other and enjoy talking with your partner without necessarily feeling you being too much or anything or the fear of always being judged.
When you prefer talking to someone else when something is up rather than your partner or you feel as though you need to force them to listen to you then you are probably in the wrong relationship.
In the right relationship, you both should be able to communicate with each other freely.
As much as it’s good to communicate, comfortable silences are also important in a relationship.
Ever had a friend who you were able to sit in a room with and be silent, without it being awkward?
Just doing your own thing or enjoying each other’s company?
This is also an important part of a relationship — not having to speak all of the time, and sometimes just being together.
Alone time isn’t merely just something that would be nice to have, but rather a necessity for your mental health and also healthy for a relationship.
