If you’re in love but feel like you’re all alone, the distance between you and your partner can seem vast and insurmountable.
But don’t lose hope. Even small changes can help bridge the gap between you and bring back the intimacy in your relationship.
Here’s how to stop feeling alone in a relationship and reignite the spark in your love life.
1. Confide all your problems
While it’s hard to start a conversation, that doesn’t mean you have to stop.
Don’t talk about your problems right away or start the conversation with crying and resentment. This is one common reason why other couples find “talking” uninteresting.
Talk about something that will make the both of you smile. Or bring up a topic that can help you unwind. Remember: Start your conversation with a positive and lighter note.
2. Practice self-care
Self-care is essential, especially when you’re feeling down and lonely in a relationship.
Start by exercising, eating healthy home-cooked meals, sleeping 8 hours a day, and doing something that will make you happy.
Keep in mind: While your partner can make you happy, you should also learn to be happy on your own too.
3. Listen to your partner
When you start opening up with each other, even if you are excited about the fact that you are connecting again, please listen to your partner.
It’s easy to get disappointed if your partner is not paying attention, so don’t make your partner feel this way.
Remember: If you’re interested and listening, your communication will improve.
4. Do something Nice for your partner
If your partner loves history, buy them a book about the Civil War. Or offer to drive the kids for ice cream after school so your partner, who works from home, can take a break and play a video game for a little while.
5. Hug Your Partner
Be physically affectionate. When you hug your partner, oxytocin (often called the “cuddle hormone”) is released. When you touch one another, you’ll feel a sense of closeness. You’ll also gain deeper feelings of connection, bonding, and trust.
6. Nurture Other Relationships
Call your buddy or spend time with your sister. Don’t forget to nurture your other important relationships. You’ll be reminded that you love others and that you yourself are loved.
7. Reminisce about your past
Sometimes, we forget how deeply in love we are. With these memories, you’ll see that you’ve drifted apart, and this can help you realize that the both of you should work together.
Remember: Bring out that old album or print some old photos and share stories
