How to tell if you’ve found the one? Everyone can find someone and try to build a long and lasting relationship with, but the question is, are you happy with that person? The main reason why you get into a relationship is because you want to be with someone you love, and to be with someone who will love you back the way you want to be loved.
Some people say that maybe when a relationship fails, it’s because you were not with the right person for you. But how do you know if you are in the right relationship with the right person anyway? Here are ten ways the right person will love you
1. They will love you without condition.
With the right person, you can be yourself, because no matter who you are or what you do, you will feel that you are loved. This person will do things for you without asking for anything in return. And even if you hurt them or do them wrong, they will be willing to forgive you and never stop loving you.
2. They will listen — really listen.
Your soulmate will be someone that you can talk to about anything you want, without inhibitions or pretense. This person will listen attentively and will remember every important detail of your story, because what matters to you matters to him or her too.
3. They will give you space.
At the beginning of a relationship, it’s normal to be inseparable, to want to do every last thing together. But there comes a point where each partner needs some space. When and how this happens varies from person to person and from one relationship to another.
But since real love means letting your partner be his or herself, you need to respect your partner’s need for independence and the autonomy to sometimes do things without you.
4. They will fight for you.
When you’re having a down-and-out day, your partner will be the first one to remind you how incredibly awesome you are. Your partner will be your biggest defender against conflicts with others.
They will remind you of the strength you forgot you had, and give you the fighting words when you’re too upset to find them yourself.
5. They will hang on during the storms.
Conflicts in relationships are natural, but when left to fester they can destroy relationships. Fighting is normal and healthy. Fights are opportunities to work through stuff.
But someone who truly loves you will never stay angry. He or she will work through the anger to get to the other side — that other side being a deeper understanding and mutual respect.
6. They Will Trust and Respect You
You will know if you are in a healthy relationship if your partner gives you the trust and respect you deserve. You give each other space to do the things that you enjoy as an individual. You also give each other some time apart so you can be with your relatives and friends. You will feel that you are both growing together, without having to give up the things and people that you also love.
7. They will admit when they’re being a jerk.
Someone who never admits when he or she has made a mistake isn’t going to be able to love authentically. Loving means being vulnerable, and owning it when you’ve been a bona fide schmuck.
8. Will never want to hurt you
When you are in a good relationship, you will always feel safe, as long as you have the one you love with you. You will know in your heart that this person will never do anything to hurt you, and you will always have someone to run to when things get tough.
9. They Will appreciate you
The right person allows you to be the best version of yourself. Through his or her support and love, you will be encouraged the try new things and find ways to improve yourself. You will like who you are because you know that there is someone special who appreciates you.
10. They will make you feel safe.
It goes without saying that a partner who’s physically or verbally abusive needs to be kicked to the curb. But all partners should give you a sense of safety.
Usually, it’s a pretty intuitive thing. You just know when you can trust someone, and this is solidified when they demonstrate that trust to you throughout the relationship.
Finding someone who loves you doesn’t mean your relationship will be without bumps.
There are no perfect people or relationships — knowing and accepting that is half the battle.
What you need is a partner is who willing to try, who wants to make the effort to understand you, whose love is generous, demonstrated in concrete actions, and not just words or ideals.
Once you’ve found that person, you’ll know it in your bones. And you’ll never let them go.
References: saathiyablog.wordpress.com, myjoyonline.com
