No Matter What Happens, A Loving Partner Will Never Say These Things To You
1. It’s all your fault.
Putting the blame on someone else will never solve the problem, even if they are indeed the source. Avoid pointing fingers and potentially escalating the situation, and explain how you feel rather than using accusatory statements.
2. Ugh, I just want to slap you right now!
During the height of an argument, your partner should resist the urge to blurt out destructive remarks. It’s not going to solve either problem, and it might get you more excited.
3. You’re such a liar.
Even if they’d never take things to a physical level, saying so isn’t that much better. In the peak of an argument, your partner should resist the urge to blurt out damaging things like this. It won’t solve a single problem, and it’ll probably fire you up even more.
4. Stop being so dramatic.
It’s an emotional term that makes you feel like you’re being unreasonable and that you should never say this to your partner. If this is something you’ve told more than once in your relationship, it means you are not interested in listening to your partner’s needs and concerns and is already convinced they do everything wrong and you are right.
5. You can’t do anything right.
This phrase is one of the most dangerous because the more you hear it, the more likely you are to start believing it yourself. Telling you that you’re incompetent — even if they don’t mean it — is extremely hurtful. This could affect a person’s overall confidence and self-worth.
6. Your job is pointless.
We all have opinions about different careers. In fact, this has never been more true than today, when an increasing number of people are choosing flexible job options. Regardless, we all must respect that what works for one person may not work for another — and that’s okay.
7. That’s so stupid.
It’s never acceptable for your partner to insult your IQ, or suggest that something you like is “stupid.” When you’re on the receiving end of such comments, it really can hurt your sense of self-worth. Plus, it’s just downright rude.
8. I told you so…
Well, of course, we all kind of want to say “I told you so” when things we say happen the way we say they do. ut still, it’s a terrible thing to say, and it definitely shouldn’t be uttered with any kind of regularity in a relationship. This is indicative of a really immature partner who is probably just going to get meaner over time.
9. If you love me, you would…
It’s not fair for your partner to guilt trip you into getting their way. Putting that kind of pressure on you is manipulative because they know you’re more likely to fulfill their request when they put your love in question.
