Narcissists Just Hate Seeing Others Happy And Here Are 7 Psychological Reasons For This
“Narcissists have poor self-esteem, but they are typically very successful. They feel entitled; they’re self-important; they crave admiration and lack empathy. They are also exploitative and envious. The malignant types never forget a slight. They may kill you ten years later for cutting them off in traffic. But they act perfectly normal while plotting their revenge.” — Janet M. Tavakoli
Being a narcissist means that this person is selfish, arrogant, and needs admiration from the rest of the world. Unfortunately, most people who have narcissistic personalities don’t know or refuse to admit that they are like this.
People with strong narcissistic tendencies hate seeing others do well. Although they demonstrate self-confidence, they lack it. There’s a big difference between being sure of yourself and thinking you’re the best.
There are many different psychological reasons why narcissists behave this way, and we will go over the most important of them.
1. Narcissists are never happy.
First of all, the real satisfaction comes from within. People with a narcissistic personality can not feel a real happiness because they do not have their own individuality. As a result, they feel upset and try to be happier by managing their crooked self-esteem. Narcissists seek external recognition of their success. These people think they can improve their social status by buying expensive items, developing sex, making more money, and so on. However, these things can not buy true happiness. What narcissists do not know is that true contentment comes from within.
2. You lack empathy.
A narcissist could barely see how many more people must work to succeed. They assume that others use the same dishonest means to get what they want. You can not imagine that another person might be more capable. These people could not believe that there was someone more worthy than him. Narcissists do not understand that others achieve their goals because they work hard.
3. A narcissist thinks that he deserves what others can achieve because they are better than others.
If someone else possesses more things than a narcissism or something better than him, the narcissist’s sense of superiority becomes even stronger. It’s the same for their ambition to have everything the other has. A narcissist believes that no one deserves what he does not have.
4. People with a narcissistic personality feel comfortable when others feel miserable.
They like to watch the battles, the problems or the humiliations of another person. There is a German designation – Schadenfreude. It is a composite name of ‘damage, damage’ and joy ‘joy’ damage. Narcissists are happy when others can not achieve their goals. And when people feel unhappy or unhappy. Narcissists also have sadistic tendencies and are extremely happy to let others suffer. Since they themselves can not achieve happiness, they can feel envy and resentment only when someone else is happy or well off. And could easily become rude and arrogant.
5. Narcissists believe that they are the only good and worthy ones.
They believe that others do not deserve success and happiness. Not only that, if someone else is doing well and succeeds, then the narcissist may feel in danger. The reason is that narcissists have a strong psychological need to always compare themselves to others. And if they did, they could only see things in black and white. Either they are the best or the losers. And a narcissist would never accept that he is on the losing side.
6. You must be positively evaluated by others.
Because of their extreme precariousness, narcissists do not want the world to see their mistakes. And they would not accept a bad opinion about them. You can be aggressive with people you do not like or do not support.
7. Narcissists are unstable and could hurt others emotionally.
Another way for a narcissist to undermine the value of others is to denigrate and insult them. They could try to destroy others, put people against their friends, harass, abuse and do a lot of other emotionally harmful things.
How can I manage narcissism?
Narcissists are different – great, secret, collective, etc., but they all have one thing in common: they are not sure and can not accept the happiness of others. Dealing with narcissism can be very difficult. Narcissists can use your energy, make you feel uncomfortable and get everyone’s attention. It’s too stressful for most people who face narcissism. So, sooner or later, avoid others to avoid them.
If you are dealing with narcissism, do not let it hurt you.
You do not do anything wrong if you live a peaceful and comfortable life. Is everything possible to stand out from the narcissists? Bad people will always be unhappy, but it’s not your fault.
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