It’s usual for moms to protect their children. But sometimes, the way some parents choose to protect their children can raise eyebrows from other parents. Although parents simply want the best for their children, some actions can come across as being overprotective. Parents have the prerogative of the parent to protect their child however they want as long as it won’t hurt them in the process.
But some approaches might not only come off as finicky but also as something that doesn’t make sense at all. This works for a mother who only allowed her son to go to the ladies’ restroom and never inside the gentlemen’s restroom, especially on his own.
In January 2023, a mom opened up about her concern on Mumsnet — a website made by parents for parents — particularly to ask whether she was being unreasonable in her decision to not allow her 7-year-old son to go to the gentlemen’s restroom.
This mom claimed that she would still bring her son to the ladies’ restroom each time they went outside together.
“When we’re out and my boy needs the toilet, I make him come into the ladies’ with me,” the mom said.
But according to the mom, her son has since started complaining about her still bringing him inside the women’s restroom until now. She allowed her son to go on his own once, but she explained that it was only because there was no one inside that he might encounter.
“Problem is, he’s starting to complain about it and wants to go in the gents on his own. I have let him do this in one particular place where there’s never anyone about, so I knew he wouldn’t encounter anyone at the urinals,” the mom explained.
The mom said she has been struggling to find the right words to explain where she’s coming from but said she usually doesn’t allow her son to go alone, especially in public toilets located in swimming pools.
“I’m always honest with him but I don’t quite know how to explain why I’m not letting him do this anywhere else, like at the swimming pool/gym toilet,” she remarked.
Talking about what she’s worried about, the mom said the possibility of men approaching her son worries her.
“Obviously, he’s perfectly able to use a toilet himself, but the idea of him seeing grown men using urinals, or – even if it’s a small chance – someone dodgy approaching him, worries me. We all know there are flashers and worse about, I saw them when I was a kid and so did most women I know,” she said. “At some point, he just won’t agree to go in the ladies, hopefully by then he’ll be ready to handle any bad situations,” she added.
After she asked moms, she was flooded with responses. One said she could stand outside while her son uses the urinal, while another said she should be the parent and give him advice about how to handle dangerous situations.
“Let him go to the gents and you stand outside. Tell him to scream if somebody stops him from leaving. Otherwise, continue with your stranger danger teachings. He’s got to learn to go by himself at some point,” one parent said.
“Talk to him about how to handle different situations. I called in after mine that I was just outside, so anyone inside knew someone was watching out,” another parent said.
What do you you think about this mom’s decision not to allow her son to enter the gentlemen’s restroom on his own? Let us know what you think, and pass this on to your family and friends to get their opinions too.
