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I’m torn between my girlfriend and my ex. I don’t know what to do

I’m drawn to both women in different ways and want to settle down. But I can’t make a choice.

I’m in a kind of love triangle and am so confused about what to do. I don’t know how I ended up getting into this situation, but I am finding it very difficult to get out of it.

I met my ex ten years ago, while I lived abroad, fell in love and then realised she had bipolar disorder. She came back to US with me for a short while and then went back home, only to come back to study again. It was very back and forth for many years. We broke up, got engaged but then it fell apart again and we stopped talking as much.

I met someone else two years ago and it was great, but I always felt this pull to my ex and never really let go. I went to see my ex on a number of occasions, thinking that I’d talk to her in person and know what was the right thing to do. I was never able to come up with the words, so it dragged on.

About four weeks ago, my current girlfriend found out that I had been to see my ex and we were on the verge of breaking up. I tried to put things right with her and it has been a very difficult and dark few weeks. She has forgiven me to an extent, but I still haven’t been able to let go of my ex.

It has got to a point now that I have told my girlfriend that we need to have a break so I can sort myself out. She has moved out and I do miss her a lot. However, as my ex is in a bad place at the moment, too, I have promised her I am going to go and see her so we can talk. I just don’t know what to do. I feel I should talk to her and it would give me the opportunity to see exactly if there is anything there. The space away from my girlfriend, I hope, would make me realise that she is the one for me and come back to her in a happier place where I feel I can be happy and give 100%.

I am at the point in my life of really wanting to settle down and be happy. I just don’t know which route is the right one at the moment as I am drawn to them both in different ways – they both have amazing qualities.

Source: Internet