When a man found something his wife had been hiding, took to the internet for advice. The wife tried to pretend it was not what he thought of at first but finally relented and told him the truth.
A man took to Reddit to share a conflict that had arisen between him and his wife. According to the man, his house garage was covered in mold, and because he and his wife of five years were planning to start a family, he wanted to get rid of it.
He inspected the entire home, and cleaned out his wife’s closet.
At this time, he made a discovery that led him to question his wife and their relationship as he knew it.
The man was cleaning the closet when he found a gym bag filled with clothing, dried fruit, sanitary products, and money. Confused by the discovery, the man asked his wife what it was for.
His wife went pale and said to him that it was a bag she had packed for an emergency, such as an earthquake or similar catastrophe. The man asked his wife why, if that was the bag’s intended use, she hid it from him.
The two argued back and forth for a while before the woman finally told her husband it was a “go bag.”Â
The “go bag” is something that women in abus!ve or dangerous relationships pack so they can flee the situation without their partner finding out until after they’re gone.
The man was confused. He shared he had never raised his voice to his wife, and they barely argued. The man questioned his wife on why she believed he would ever turn into an abus!ve person.
The woman said that she did not consider her husband an a>buser, but she had packed the bag for her peace of mind.Â
The man did not believe his wife and said he didn’t think that she trusted him.
After the argument, it took the man a couple of days to think about the incident and ultimately he decided that he did not want to be with a woman who could not trust him or someone who saw him as a>busive.
As he believed trust was “the foundation” of a relationship, the man asked his wife for a separation and said that if she didn’t trust him, it would be better for them both if they parted ways.
After that, the woman told her husband that she had been reading forums started by moms online, which influenced her to pack the “go bag” even though she did not consider her husband an a busive person.
She showed him the forums, and then the man said he understood his wife’s logic but didn’t feel right about the situation. He agreed to take more time to think about it but said he felt he should divorce her so she could find a man she trusted.
The original post gained much attention, and soon, the man shared an update.Â
The man said statistics should not be applied to his situation as he and his wife were individuals. He also clarified that his wife had never been in an abus_ive relationship.
In addition, the man said that people giving advice based on what they thought was going on were wrong because they were not being objective about the situation. He once again ended the post by stating that a relationship without trust was not a relationship at all.
