It’s no secret that being a parent is challenging and some days you may be running out of time and ready to give up.
For some people, this feeling may go away, for others it may not.
One mother shared how she struggled with parenthood and all it entails.
The unnamed woman took to Mumsnet to confess it all in an emotional post and asked fellow mothers and fathers if she was ‘absurd’ to consider giving up her two-year-old son. himself and let him live with his father or not.
She wrote: “My son is nearly two. By this stage, I thought I would’ve settled into life as a mum and have my s**t together.
“I thought I was going to be a picture-perfect mum, gentle and calm. I’m so far from that that I don’t even like who I am.”
The mother goes on to say she doesn’t know what she’s doing and that her days feel “tense and rushed”, she only survives on three or four hours of sleep a night and working four days a day. week.
To make matters more difficult, she says her child has recently started having “terrible” tantrums that make her want to “go out”.
“I’m ashamed to type this out, but I’ve had days where I feel like don’t like him very much. There’s days where all he wants is me and I just feel like I don’t want to be around him,” she admits.
“I can’t seem to get five minutes to myself as he’s always right behind me and has tantrums if I don’t attend to him or meet his demands immediately.
“He isn’t like this with his Dad, only me.”
The parent added: “I’ve heard so many mums say it breaks their heart when their children cry, but recently when my son is screaming and crying, I could just walk out.
“I’m starting to even question if I love my son because surely a mother that loves her children does not feel like this towards them.
“I’ve given it some thought and think it could be better for both of us if he was to live with his Dad and I leave.
“I would of course still see my son, I’m not suggesting I never see him again.
“I don’t want to damage my son but feel I am just not adjusting to be the mum I so badly thought I would be.”
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More than 120 people responded to the post, with many sending the mum messages of support.
Some also brought up the topic of postpartum depression (PND) and recommended that the parents speak to a specialist, as they are concerned for her health.
One person said: “When I had similar feelings with my firstborn I had crippling PND, I was so sure I was just not supposed to be a mum and in total denial, it could be PND. I got help and now could not imagine my life for one second without my little boy, and my newborn. Get help, even if you think you don’t need it, you really might.”
Another replied: “Everyone goes through phases of not liking their kids much. Parenting is an ever-evolving skill. There is this idea that women should just be instinctive with it. It’s just another stick to beat women with. You seem quite overwhelmed though.
Can you share a little more time with his dad? Perhaps taking a parenting class? There may be some collective wisdom in those classes that can help you. Do you take time for yourself? I know it’s tough when they’re young, but maybe if dad took care of them a little more you could take some time for yourself.
A third posted: “Have you spoken to your partner about how you feel? You work quite long hours and are sleep deprived – no wonder you’re struggling! Why not look at having some time off work initially, it sounds like you’re really suffering from stress, and having time at home may help. Speak to your Health visitor, they will be able to offer support and advice. There is a lot of support out there for struggling mums – please try to access it.”
Source:mirror.co.uk
