Curious to know what men truly look for when they want to enter a committed relationship?
Good looks are a huge benefit for a girl trying to catch a man’s attention. But it’s not enough to make him fall in love and dream about building a long and happy relationship.
While great relationships start with mutual attraction, in the long run, the relationship is destined to fail if the couple lacks compatibility. Curious to know what men truly look for when they want to enter a committed relationship? Here is a list of things that are far more important than good looks.
1. Being kind and considerate
Kindness can be one of the top priorities in a relationship. Men need love too, men want to know that they are lovable. While they may show a strong exterior, inside, every man has a heart – they are not made of stone. That’s why we love them and they love us. Being kind would make him feel valuable. A bit of consideration, an acknowledgement of what he does for you can go a long way. It can make him appreciate you better and he will know that you love him exactly the way he wants to be loved. And that matters a lot more than just good looks.
2. Know yourself and be confident about it
Always strive to be the a better version of yourself. You are no less than a man as individuals. Be ready to accept that power. But with great power comes great responsibility. Take a stand, be an individual who can speak up, is driven and knows that she is important. These are some attractive qualities in any relationship. It challenges your partner and brings in a dynamic into the relationship.
3. Work toward your dreams
Men do not want a woman who would cling to them all the time. They do not want to be your entire world. Rather you should have your own dreams and passion and work hard towards it. Men always prefer a dreamer, a person who knows what she’s going to do in life and work towards it. An ambitious woman always takes up their heart, as they know that they are resilient and can keep their heads up even when the times are tough. Passionate women are fire and men want them to light up their lives. They know that if they can be partners with passionate women, they will be able to work towards their dream as well. Both their passion will empower each other to achieve greatness in their lives.
4. Being responsible for your actions and mature
Relationships work on maturity. No one wants to be with someone who’s immature and doesn’t know what to do. Immature people are often entitled, don’t know how to work together and they are incapable of learning and understanding. A mature person knows how things work – they are capable of listening, understanding and growing together. A mature person knows when they should take responsibility for their mistakes. Relationships last based on the maturity of the people in it. Never stop learning, never cease growing – it’s going to help you now or in the future when you are with your dream man.
5. You are good at communication
Communication is the key to every relationship. But being a great conversationalist is not an easy task. It has been often repeated that ‘Communication is the key’ because of this reason. Lack of it has ruined relationships. Be open with your partner and allow him to be open with you. It does not always have to be a dark secret. Just talk about anything but learn how to keep a conversation going. Don’t let it fizzle out – every man loves a good conversation with his woman.
Good looks can only get you in a relationship. These traits will make it concrete. Your man will be enchanted by you, and the best thing about it – you will be in a constantly growing and deepening the relationship with your dream partner. That’s what anybody wants from a relationship, after all.
6. You can make him laugh
Looks will fade but, if there’s something that’s going to remain, it is your personality. And what better personality can there be than the ability to make someone laugh. Life is not as serious as you think. When you grow older and wiser, you will care less about people and it will just amp up your sense of humor. That’s just the thing we need for any good relationship. Relationships are made up of those silly and funny moments – no wonder every man wants a girl who can make them laugh. After all, women are such bundles of joy and bring so much happiness to them.
7. Creativity
It goes without saying that a relationship is more rewarding if the couple involved have a free-spirit and creative mind. It always keeps things interesting and creates a sense of purpose. For example, women who surprise her man by writing him a story or painting him a picture stands a great chance of winning his heart forever.
8. A Drama-free Personality
Life is like a roller coaster. Some days will be good and others will be completely rotten. However, it is unnecessary for every little problem to explode into a major conflict. Women who have the right perspective and do not make mountains out of molehills will find it far easier to win their man over.
9. A listening spirit
Most men appreciate women who are able to just listen – no “ I told you so” lines, no lectures, tips or comments regarding what you would do if you were in his place. You know… just sitting, listening (and I mean REALLY listening)… just showing that you care.
Oh, and that involves being patient as well, understanding that most men need to “process” their problems before they can talk about them and learn to say, “Okay, baby, whenever you want to talk about it – I’m here for you”.
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