Angry Bride Calls Off Wedding After Fiancé Asks To Postpone It To Visit Dying Grandma
Weddings can be incredibly expensive, so postponing them might be quite overwhelming. But what if the reason for delaying a wedding is the loss of a loved one?
There will always be a special place in your heart for the people who raised you, giving you a childhood that you can fondly look back upon. And for these people, making a few sacrifices won’t matter because you know how much they sacrificed to give you that childhood. One man, loved and raised by his aging old grandma, dropped everything to be by her side when he heard that she didn’t have long to live. A heartwarming gesture nonetheless, his fiancée was not very happy about it.
The bride-to-be was furious when she found out that her groom wanted to push the wedding a few days ahead so he could be there for the woman who raised him the way his real mother never could. He has never had a relationship with his biological mother and was left with his grandmother since the time he was born.
Not knowing whether he did the right thing by posting his wedding to be by his dying grandmother’s side, the man asked Reddit users:
“AITA for skipping my own wedding to see my dying grandma?
This actually happened about 5 months ago, but since my girlfriend (no longer engaged) refuses to let it go, and I honestly don’t think I’m in the wrong, I figured I’d ask for an outside opinion.
My girlfriend (then fiancée) were engaged to be married about 5 months ago.
Now, my biological mother is a useless drug addict that I’ve never cared for nor wished to pursue a relationship with. She left me with my grandma and I was raised by her since birth. I have always and will always consider my grandma my real “mother” because she raised me and cared for me all my life.
About a year ago, we (me and my uncles) had to put grandma in a care home. This was a hard decision to make, but we simply didn’t have the means to care for her properly anymore even with her carer’s help. She had a lot of age related health issues as well as dementia.
Fast forward to my wedding, a few days beforehand we get a call from the care home saying grandma’s condition was deteriorating rapidly and she most likely would pass away in the next day or so. My uncles and I immediately went down there and spent the entire time by her side.
She doesn’t pass as soon as expected and it extends up until the day of my wedding. I called my fiancée multiple times and explained we had to postpone the wedding. Not only was I not in the best state of mind (again, she’s my mother to me) but I needed to be by her side when she passed. I felt sick at the idea of not being there when I could.
My fiancée was extremely (to put it mildly) opposed to this and insisted I get ready as soon as possible. She obviously did not want months of planning to go to waste, and I understand that it definitely sucks. She also said there was no point in me being there since she won’t even know I’m there due to her dementia. I understand why it might seem like that to her, but to me it didn’t matter if she realised I was there or not. I just felt I had to be there with my uncles.
She ended up passing the night of my wedding. My fiancée didn’t talk to me for roughly two weeks before we finally began patching things up. She said I was completely assholish to her and humiliated her by not showing up. She thinks that as my fiancée she should take top priority no matter what. My opinion is that weddings can be rescheduled (albeit costly) and being with my grandma when she passed was more important.
So yeah that’s the back story. We have both agreed to go with the majority judgement given here and move on from it. Will answer questions when possible but will refrain from defending myself in order to be fair to my GF.
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