Why You Should Never Get In Touch With Your Ex After He Broke Up With You
1. He doesn’t really need you, otherwise he would have contacted you long ago
You respect him and shouldn’t decide for him what he needs. How do you know he doesn’t need you? It’s simple: he’s not with you. That says clearly that he doesn’t need you!
2. He might find it embarrassing and push you further away from himself
You need to be mature. Maturity means realizing your own limits and letting someone go instead of holding them on. Love doesn’t conquer everything. And in case your ex doesn’t really love you, why in the world would you run after someone who doesn’t want you?
3. You should believe he broke up for a reason
Sometimes the reasons cannot be further discussed, but are simply the way they are. So you shouldn’t try to bring these things up and resolve them again after you’ve talked about them enough. Accept these reasons and just let go of them!
4. You seem needy and diminish your personal worth to him
It is not romantic or attractive to impose yourself – it is pathetic. You are probably tired of creating situations to get closer to him or to resolve things. Stop it! It won’t get you any further! And it only makes you less attractive in his eyes.
5. You are only adding unnecessary pain and stress to yourself
Why on earth would you want to flood your body with stress and more pain instead of just accepting the simple reality that it is not here? It is no longer your problem and you should try to keep this stress away from you.
6. You are wasting your time
You are wasting your time and energy. Trying to induce some kind of compassion by texting your ex is just a stealth statement that you don’t respect or don’t trust his decisions. Why should you spend your time worrying about him when you can have new experiences or learn new skills, like a hobby or a sport?
7. You are not in control of it, so let go!
If your ex wants to get in touch with you, he will. The reality is that your ex isn’t calling you right now. That could change anytime, or it could never change. But the thing is, it’s up to him, and you have to trust his timing and respect it.
8. He does not reciprocate the desire for a relationship
Friends may suggest that you contact your ex because they are likely to want to offer their support, but you shouldn’t. You won’t be able to make the situation any better with it because his desire to be in a relationship with you just doesn’t exist. He clearly said “no” to you. If he wants to get back into your relationship now or at some point in the future, he’ll know exactly where to find you. So the decision is up to him.
9. Your behavior shows that you do not respect his decision
If he thinks the best decision for him is to say no, then you shouldn’t be trying to take control or sneak into his life.
Sometimes the highest level of love and care you can give someone is to respect that person’s wishes. There are moments when it is only appropriate to withdraw, sit down, and shut up. Your actions than simply mean that you love yourself and respect him more than forcing him to have you in his life when he doesn’t want to. You don’t love him any less, it just means that you are ready to put yourself first with love. After all, that’s exactly what he does.
