If you do any of 7 things listed below, then you need to acknowledge that the problem in your relationship is you, not your partner.
1. Your partner is the one who does everything
This applies to everything: work, daily household chores and working on the relationship. Being a taker is easy, but in a relationship you also have to give.
You need to understand that your partner will not long tolerate such behavior in the relationship.
If you just sit and ask your partner to do things for you like cook, clean, go grocery shopping, pay the bills, and a whole host of other things and never do anything in return, then you’re not a good partner.
You need to think about what you can do for your partner and your relationship. Try to do something with love and kindness at least once a day, no matter how unimportant it seems to you.
2. You always put yourself first
Do you respect your partner’s wishes and opinions when planning activities together?
If you’re always in charge and dictating where to go and what to do, don’t be surprised if you have relationship problems.
Sometimes it is necessary to put the needs and desires of other people first.
In a relationship there has to be a give and take. It doesn’t work without that.
A relationship where only one person dictates everything won’t last very long because each person has their own breaking point.
3. You don’t want to talk about problems in the relationship
The quality of communication judge how long a relationship can last.
Do you ignore their partner after a heated argument and refuse to continue communicating with them?
A cold war and the punishment of silence will not help solve the problem or improve communication between you, especially if you overdo it and it goes on for days.
Sometimes it can be wise to stay silent and calm down so you don’t end up saying something you’ll regret later.
But don’t overdo it; try to calmly discuss the issues the next day, even if that means addressing your partner first.
Talking about a problem is much better than staying silent. Silence is useless.
4. You constantly want to change your partner
Always keep in mind: nobody likes to be corrected and changed.
Your partner may not be perfect and likely has many weaknesses, but that doesn’t mean you have to change them all to make them better for you.
Respect your partner and don’t try to make them into something they are not. Of course, that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t try to be the best possible version of himself, but that’s up to himself.
Your role as a partner is to support him, not give him orders and try to turn him into a fictional person of your making.
5. You constantly point out your partner’s flaws
If you keep telling your partner all the things they’ve done wrong and listing all their problems and weaknesses when they’re having troubles, then you know the relationship won’t last.
You may want to hurt the person you love by focusing on their imperfections and flaws, but if you do then YOU are definitely the problem in the relationship.
To fix this big mistake and win back your partner’s heart, you should first admit this mistake and apologize to them.
Then tell your partner what you are thankful for in your relationship and why you value them as a person. This will improve his mood and show him that you care about him.
6. You have unrealistically high expectations
Life isn’t a romantic comedy, so you can’t expect your partner to act like a character from a Hollywood movie.
Talk to your partner about each other’s desires and expectations, but first think about them yourself and make sure they’re realistic. Then it will also be possible to realize these expectations.
7. You never say you’re sorry
The key to love is knowing you can admit when you’re wrong.
If you don’t know how to take responsibility for your actions, you can be sure that the problem in the relationship is you.
Apologizing is a sign of maturity. If you can’t even say you’re sorry, you might not be ready for a committed relationship.
