7 Tell-Tale Signs You’re Being Used By The Man You’re In Love
1. He avoids talking about commitment
If your partner avoids or refuses to have a discussion about where they see the relationship going in the near future, there’s an issue. You have spent a lot of time together and gotten to know one another, and it is absolutely fair that you want to know what direction the relationship is headed in.
You should know where the relationship stands so you can decide how much of a physical and emotional investment you want to put into it.
Someone who is using you, regardless of their reason for doing so, will avoid talking about the future like the plague.
2. He doesn’t care about how you feel
He appears to be disregarding feelings and remains cold. If he doesn’t get you, then he isn’t the one, and you can be sure about that. An innate understanding is necessary to build an intimate and meaningful relationship. It is the little details that count, and it is important to know about your partner to make things work in the long term, after the initial interest has faded.
3. He doesn’t show you much affection
If your partner is using you, there won’t be much affection, even while having s3x or engaging in s3xual acts. It can almost be as if your partner has detached emotionally from his body and is only physically present. His mind is elsewhere.
You’ll be able to tell this by lack of hand holding and eye contact.
4. He won’t really let you know him, and he doesn’t try to know you
When you two are together, you barely talk about each other. Your partner probably doesn’t know your favorite color or food, and you probably don’t know the same about your partner.
When someone is using you, there is minimal to no emotional investment on the user’s part, so they don’t find it necessary to divulge information about themselves.
Think about how much you really know about your partner, and if there have ever been times he’s has dodged questions about important aspects of himself.
5. He expects too many favors
He might say he loves you, but actions always speak louder than words. If he always asks favors from you, or if you feel you are the one doing things to make him happy and he doesn’t reciprocate, he might be in the relationship only to fulfill his personal needs.
6. He doesn’t care about your dreams and goals
One of the most important things to make a relationship work is to have similar values. While career, family, and ambitions are all crucial, if all he cares about are his dreams and personal growth, by disregarding wishes, dreams and goals into consideration, he is using you. You will struggle to grow with him, and your relationship may feel toxic or stagnated in such circumstances.
7. You are his secret
You haven’t met any of his inner circle, and he doesn’t post about you on social media, not even simple stories of coffee dates! If he tries to keep you to himself and doesn’t want the world to know about you both, it is a clear indicator that he is disregarding your trust.. Most probably, you will be left with a broken heart if the relationship continues.
