If You Are Doing Any Of These 6 Things, You Are The Controlling One In Your Relationship
1) You don’t want your partner to see their friends or family
When you start a relationship with someone, you accept not only them but also their close circle of family and friends into your life.
Unfortunately, these people may not click with you and your partner does. That’s the reason why you may want your partner to spend less time with their friends and family.
But you should take care to stop, because this is a sign you’re being a little too controlling.
2) You constantly criticize your partner even for small things
You may believe that your criticism of your partner is fully called for, or that you’re just helping them be a better person. However, at the end of the day, no matter how tiny a complaint may seem, it makes it very hard for your partner to feel loved and accepted.
You started a relationship with your partner for who they are in the first place, not for who they can become. Everyone needs and deserves to feel validated as a person the way they are.
3) You place conditions on your love
This is another sign that you’re the controlling one in the relationship.
Have you ever said something like this to your partner?
“I love you a lot more when you help around the house.”
“I’m not in the mood to be intimate now — but if you keep working out, I might feel different.”
“I’ll help you with the dishes if you apologize for what you said.”
No matter what exactly you say, the underlying message is the same: right now, you are not good enough. You are controlling your partner.
4) You are very jealous
Jealousy in healthy amounts is a sign that you care about your partner. But if you let it get too intense it becomes scary and possessive instead.
You will begin to misinterpret innocent interactions as flirting, look for reasons to be suspicious and feel threatened by anyone your partner comes into contact with.
At the end of the day, this is a problem of trust and self-confidence. Even very well-meaning people fall into this trap, and the way out is by working through the past traumas that lead you here in the first place.
It’s very important to do this because otherwise you’re being too controlling in the relationship, and will eventually push your partner away.
5) You don’t give them enough alone time
You might think your partner doesn’t want alone time and they love spending time with you.
But no matter how much two people love each other, everyone needs a bit of time on their own for self-care, or to get in touch with their feelings and needs.
6) You’re not willing to consider their point of view
Arguments are common in every relationship. Even Cinderella and Prince Charming had fights from time to time.
What is important is both people’s approach towards the conflict. In particular, they must both hear each other out.
If you find yourself closed off to your partner’s opinions, or talking over them, it’s a sign you’re the controlling one. This tends to happen when you want to force your partner to accept your point of view, so you don’t even give them a chance to express theirs.
You may feel like you’re in the right, and want your partner to hear your feelings— but if you love your partner, you must give them the same.
