5 Reasons Why Some Women Get Bored With Motherhood
1. The endless routine
Repeated routine is good for kids and creates a secure attachment between mothers and their child. However, stability, routine, consistency and reliability can also become extremely boring for mothers.
Even when your child gets older, you can start to feel like you are in a never-ending cycle of house chores, feeding, running errands, handling the mundane to emergency situations and keeping everything in order.
You may become a multitasking goddess, but the lack of stimulating variety can lead to boredom and monotony.
2. You’ve disowned essential parts of your identity
In order to become a “good” mother”, many moms shut off or disown parts of themselves. Maybe there was something that you used to enjoy doing that now feels like a mismatch with motherhood.
Is an old passion really ready to be retired or is it something you think you “shouldn’t” do now that you are a parent? Many mothers push aside artistic, creative or intellectual pursuits during motherhood, thinking it is all or nothing, or even too selfish to consider.
If this describes you, where can you add in daily bits of “who you were” before becoming a mom?
3. Limited adult interaction
While we have more and more ways to connect online, there is still a major difference between having a conversation online and the feeling of companionship in person. Loneliness and boredom can hit hard when you’re not getting the adult stimulation and conversation needed to feel connected, heard and seen.
4. Lack of personal time
When you feel like you have no time to yourself, boredom with the limited opportunities you do have for self-care and personal expression can quickly turn into frustration and anger.
Seek out help from family members, friends and/or your partner to carve out the time you need in order to exercise, relax or unplug from the stresses of parenting.
5. You’ve abandoned your goals
Even if you’re holding down another job or career, motherhood/parenting is a full-time jobs. Even as your child or children grow, the caregiving, caring and devotion don’t end. Often there are new stresses and stressors as your child hits new milestones. Your own goals may sit just out of reach or remain fuzzy in the background of your mind. A lack of goals related to your own personal growth can leave you feeling bored, numb, disconnected and disengaged.
While boredom can be a normal part of motherhood, it doesn’t have to feel like groundhog day every day. Take time to seek support, connecting with others who share similar experiences, and reconnect to your deep personal goals and interests. And I believe it can help renew a sense of purpose and meaning in your days that includes your children and also feeds your soul.
