8 things you might be doing to destroy your relationship without even realizing it
1. You’re unnecessarily critical.
It’s okay when you make suggestions if you’re trying to help your man through something, but constantly scrutinizing and judging his every move is eventually going to become grating. No one wants their character to be questioned at every turn, and it’s unlikely he’ll put up with your negative attitude for long.
2. You don’t make quality time for each other.
The sheer number of hours you spend in each other’s presence is a lot less important than what you do while you’re together. If all you do is small talk over dinner, watch TV in silence, then go to bed, you might as well have spent the night alone.
3. You hold grudges/don’t let things go.
Once your partner understands and apologizes for how they’ve wronged you, it’s important to move on. Holding grudges make you an angry and bitter person, and these feelings will prevent you from being happy. Forgiveness should come second nature to you if you don’t want to destroy your relationship.
4. You drop hints instead of communicating openly and directly.
Your partner doesn’t always understand what you’re trying to convey with hints. A relationship based on passive-aggressiveness isn’t healthy because it means you’re unable to express your thoughts, feelings, and desires as directly as you should. Keep in mind, open and honest communication is key to long-lasting healthy relationships.
5. You avoid conflict at all costs.
Avoiding conflict will not only cut off honest communication between you, but it will also force you to suppress your feelings and bottle up frustrations, leaving you mentally exhausted and eventually resentful of your partner. Instead of avoiding conflict, engage in a meaningful conversation to resolve the issue.
6. You take your partner for granted.
If you want to save your relationship, you’d better know the distinction. When’s the last time you thanked your partner for doing something nice for you? Appreciate them for the small things they do every day and let them know that you will never take them for granted. Treat them the way you want to be treated.
7. You try to change them.
Unless you’re trying to help them live a better life (and they’ve actually asked for your input), let your partner decide whether they’re willing to change who they are. Don’t force them to change just because you think the outcome would be better for you. Don’t be selfish.
8. You refuse to change.
There are certain aspects of our life only our partners can help us change. Remember, change is good only if it benefits both of you and you see positive changes in your relationship.
