How To Revitalize The Spark Missing From Your Intimate Life
1. Spend time with your partner on a daily basis.
Try a variety of activities that bring you both pleasure. Have fun courting your partner and practice flirting. Don’t forget to cuddle on the couch and surprise your partner with a kiss.
2. Examine your pattern of relating.
These include ways you might be denying your partner or coming on too strong $_exually. Avoid criticizing each other and stop the “blame game.”
2. Break the pursuer-distancer pattern.
Distancers need to practice initiating s3x more often and pursuers need to find ways to tell their partner “you’re sexy,” while avoiding critique after s3x.
3. Resolve conflicts skillfully.
Don’t put aside resentments that can destroy your relationship. Experiencing conflict is inevitable and couples who strive to avoid it are at risk of developing stagnant relationships.
4. Boost up physical affection.
According to author Dr. Kory Floyd, physical contact releases feel good hormones. Holding hands, hugging and touching can release oxytocin (the bonding hormone) that reduces pain and causes a calming sensation. Studies show that it’s released during affectionate touch. Physical affection also reduces stress hormones — lowering daily levels of the stress hormone cortisol.
5. Allow tension to build.
Our brains experience more pleasure when the anticipation of the reward goes on for some time before we get the actual reward. So take your time, share fantasies, change locations and make s*x more romantic.
