When someone falls in love with a married individual, they always have the option of continuing the connection and breaking up the family or fleeing such a questionable relationship. Today’s heroine is the affair partner of a married man. She ruined his family and was confident that their love would thrive on the ashes of her SO’s failed marriage. However, the woman’s actions had serious consequences, and she now regrets them all.
The woman was certain she was doing everything correctly.
A woman, 38, submitted a message to our editorial, and it was a heartfelt confession from her. She began her letter by adding, “I am in a situation where I really don’t know what to do.” My entire life had taken such a dramatic swing, and I appeared unprepared for the collapse of my illusions. I apologize for the lengthy letter, but I feel compelled to express myself.
The woman went on to add that her partner is 54, and their relationship did not begin in a fair manner. She wrote, “My SO and I met six years ago at a joint team-building event hosted by our companies.” He was married and had two children, aged ten and fifteen at the time. I didn’t have a family or children, and I wasn’t in a relationship at the time.
We started out as close friends, but after a while, we developed strong romantic feelings for each other. He informed me that he was deeply unhappy in his marriage, that it was terrible and a mistake. He stated that he was planning to leave his wife anyway and was simply waiting for a time when the children were a little older.
The woman immediately trusted her SO and formed great affections for him. She added, “I fell in love with this man and was willing to wait until he ended his marriage.” After two years of our affair, we were caught, and things became quite difficult for a while.»
After a breakup, things were developing in a moderate way.
The woman continues her letter, stating that now that their affair is no longer a secret, they have moved in together and are preparing to start their own family.
She stated, “His wife was heartbroken, but she chose not to tell the children about their father’s affair.” We both respected his wife and children, so we kept our relationship private for a year.
My SO first introduced me to his children after about a year. It was difficult for the kids to see their dad happy with another woman, but we eventually got along just fine. We then bought a house and were preparing for getting married. The kids came to visit us often. Things were developing in the best way possible for us. Or so I thought.»
The man’s ex-wife was extremely distressed and in great pain.
The woman shared, «My fiancé’s ex-wife had a really tough time living through her husband’s infidelity and him leaving. She has always been a stay-at-home mother and had a part-time job. We knew that she had some serious health issues and gained a lot of weight. She was completely depressed and isolated.»
The ex-wife was totally desperate, and it seemed like it would take her a really long time to recover.
The woman revealed, «After their breakup she often called my SO, she was crying, she sent him long emails and heartfelt texts, she begged him for another chance to recover their family. My fiancé was guilt-ridden, but he never communicated with her outside the things considering the divorce and their kids. He said he made a choice, and that he loved me, that he regretted the pain he has caused her and the children, but it was already done and all he could do is look into the future, without turning backwards.»
The betrayed woman began to recover, signaling the end of an extramarital relationship.
One day, the man’s ex-wife simply stopped phoning and sending him long messages. The woman claimed that the ex-spouse had simply requested her fiancé to co-parent using a parenting app. The woman stated, “He never met or heard from her.” His oldest kid could now drive, and he could go to her place to pick up his youngest son when the ex was not around. For me, it was a big relief.
My fiancé’s oldest son informed us that his mother was seeing a therapist and practicing meditation and yoga. She was also becoming more physically active and losing weight. The ex also found a full-time job in her professional sector and seemed very happy.»
Then, some detail was uncovered, and the woman’s SO just changed. The woman wrote, «Some time ago, SO’s youngest son started mentioning some „uncle P“ in conversations. This „Uncle P“ was one of my fiancé’s best friends. He once completely cut contact with my SO after our affair was revealed. They haven’t met or spoken to each other since.
It found out that “uncle P” and fiancé’s ex-wife were now in a relationship. At the same moment we learned about this, I discovered I was pregnant. After this disclosure, my SO appeared quite frustrated, but I assumed it was due to his stress at work, as he had changed positions. Then he started arriving home later. He was constantly on his phone. His behavior was rapidly altering from what I had previously observed.»
Things took a very painful turn for the woman in the end.
The woman reported that her partner consented to attend a therapist and is currently in treatment. They now have a kid, and the mother honestly believed that things would improve and that having a baby would help them move forward. But she said that their relationship is still strained.
She stated, “I feel that his heart and mind are no longer in our relationship, and I am considering leaving him.” I still adore him, and we have a baby. I truly want us to become a family. I recognize all of the suffering we have caused, and our path has not been easy, but we went too far.»
