For many people, discovering that your partner is having an affair is the point of no return. While this might be something that is out in the open, there are some silent killers that can ruin your relationship.
These acts also have the power to ruin your relationship. It can cause damage to the strongest of relationships and are often classified as worse than cheating. They might seem insignificant but when they build up, they blow up in your face and prove dangerous for your relationship.
Here are the things that are worse than cheating in a relationship.
1. Dishonesty
There are different kinds of dishonesty, but it essentially amounts to the same thing – being unable to trust your partner with the truth. Dishonesty can be about finances, about your feelings, or just general dishonesty. It creates holes in a marriage when one party is constantly lying about everything. It makes it difficult for the other party to trust their spouse. Dishonesty about how you feel will pile up and fester until one day somebody cannot take it anymore.
2. Disrespect and Devaluing
It usually starts as a little bit of teasing, laughing, and making jokes at each other’s expense, especially in public. But more often than not, somebody crosses a line without realizing it then it becomes hurtful and embarrassing to the other party. If by your actions or words, you constantly open your partner up to unwanted ribbing, it may create cracks in your marriage.
3. Immaturity and Pettiness
A healthy dose of compromise and selflessness makes a relationship thrive. Mundane issues should not be cause for intense arguments. Both parties need to understand that they do not have to be right all the time. If one or both partners store up the other party’s faults and wrongs like ammunition, it becomes a recipe for disaster.
5. Turning your attention away from your spouse
You can easily get lost in your work for a few hours. But if you are constantly putting work or kids above your spouse, it passes across the message that you are not interested in them. In marriage, both parties should strive to consciously and consistently put each other first. If one party feels neglected and unloved, they may try to seek this validation elsewhere and that does not bode well.
5. Lack of proper communication
Not being able to share things with your partner is a silent killer that will affect your relationship in the worst way possible. All these things build up over time and become unmanageable, which makes it so damaging. Try to fix it as soon as you can to avoid problems.
6. Only focusing on physical intimacy
Physical intimacy is important for a relationship, but emotional, intellectual and spiritual intimacy is also important in a relationship. You might be the most loyal partner, but if you don’t connect with each other and share these intimacies, then its only time before it ends.
