Do you feel like maybe your guy doesn’t fully appreciate you? Maybe he’s been pulling away lately and you don’t know what to do. So you’re trying to figure out how to make him worry about losing you as a way to get his attention back on you.
There’s definitely a right and wrong way to go about this. And fear might be the ticket. Fear: it can be a powerful motivator, and can be used to get people to change their behavior…if used correctly. Now, in a long-term, healthy relationship, fear should never be used as a way to control or manipulate your partner. Here are some simple ways to make your man worry about losing you.
1. Stop pampering him
Men sometimes might get too comfortable in a setup and start taking you for granted. Make your partner realize your importance. Stop doing things that you usually do for him. If you cook his favorite dishes, iron his shirts, or brew coffee for him—stop it for a while. What’s the point in working on something when you are not appreciated. Be prepared with witty answers for his ‘why’ and enjoy the triggering reactions. For starters, how about, “I haven’t signed up to babysit in our relationship, have I?”
2. Trim the physical intimacy
Withhold physical intimacy. ѕєχ is important, and withholding ‘physical treats’ can get his mind into the attention mode. Saying “no” to those intimate moments and showing less interest can build an invisible barrier, which he would want to break.
3. Be indifferent
Many women end up hurting themselves when they go overboard with their communication. Give yourself a break. Turn on your silent mode. You need not respond to his texts instantly with a rally of emoticons. Delay answering his phone calls, and overlook video calls. Make him understand you aren’t available all the time. Assuming he is sensible enough, he’ll wonder what’s wrong.
4. Be care ‘free’
Stop giving him importance. Don’t show him that you care. If you routinely ask him about his experiences through the day or about his feelings, hold yourself. Do not ask him for reasons when he feels low. Pretend you are least worried. If you wait for him to have dinner together, give it a skip. Tell him you have already eaten.
5. Try being secretive
Some couples have the habit of sharing each other’s passwords and codes. Changing the password will make him want to know why. In case you do not wish to do so, be secretive in subtle ways. Don’t discuss your plans with him. Move to a different location while talking on the phone. Text your friends late in the night (even if it is sharing jokes with your girl gang). Work up his mind and curiosity.
6. Make him jealous
When you go out with friends, make sure he notices. Click pictures of you having a great time and share them on social media. Post selfies with your girlfriends, with cheeky captions. Talk to him about a new male colleague and tell him how friendly he is. He will regret missing out on the fun. It will also make him jealous and want you more. These are healthy actions that you may try, but make sure you do not go overboard.