5 Signs Your Partner Doesn’t Respect You
One of the key elements of a healthy relationship is respect, however at the beginning it is difficult to see whether your partner truly respects you. Even though it is often obvious that you are being disrespected, it is sometimes hard to see the signs particularly because everyone has a different definition about respect.
Respect is something that can’t be measured which is why little research has been done regarding this topic. However, psychologists have been able to create a definition about respect which includes the following:
- Not being abusive or judgmental
- Being considerate
Most of the subjects in the study had the same concept about respect and they agreed that the following 5 things are a definite sign that your partner is being disrespectful.
1.He/she tells you what is wrong with you
No one is perfect. You already know this, which is why you don’t need your partner to keep reminding you of it. It’s hard enough for you to accept your own faults without a reminder.
If your partner frequently speaks up about what they feel are your weak points or mistakes, this is a sign they don’t respect you. Talk openly about how this makes you feel and let them know you are aware that you are not perfect.
2.He/she doesn’t listen to you
Respect can also be shown through the ability to listen carefully to what your partner is telling you. The communication breaks down if one of the people in the conversation keeps interrupting the other or seems distant.
Besides listening, responding is also a very important part of a healthy conversation because it shows you are fully present in the moment.
3.He/she always does things his/her way
Being in a healthy relationship means having the same and equal rights. No one should always be right or have things their way. One of the keys to a respectful relationship is being able to compromise.
When your partner tries to control the relationship and insists on having things their way, it is a sign that they do not respect your needs. Try asserting yourself, especially when the subject at hand is important to you. If your partner still does not give you a turn in having things your way, tell them this behavior is unacceptable.
4.He/she disrespects your friends and family
Your partner doesn’t have to love your friends or family like you do, but they do need to treat them with respect. As a couple, you will be spending time together in the future, and part of your lives together will include family time.
It is important to a healthy, respectful relationship for you and your partner to have a good relationship with each other’s friends and family. Even if you are only civil to each other, respect for your partner’s loved ones is important.
5.He/she is constantly unkind
Harming other people especially if it is intentional, is a red flag that your partner is being disrespectful. Attacking someone whether it is physically or verbally shows how little your partner cares about you or other people’s feelings. He/she should know that everyone is responsible for their own words and actions and he needs to know the consequences of that kind of behavior.