21 Stages Of The Relationship Between A Narcissist And An Empath
Why do empaths end up with narcissists?
The reasons why empaths are so easily attracted to narcissists (most of the time without realizing it) are complex, but this is generally due to the fact that narcissists are wounded people who are thirsty for attention and who are quick to help and understand want this benevolent hand.
Here is an overview of the 21 stages of a common relationship that can exist between a empath and a narcissist.
Step 1: Attraction
Narcissism attracts empath and a relationship begins. Empath feels affirmed and needed by a person who needs his care and seems to enjoy this care. They will begin to develop a strong sense of unconditional love for narcissism, while the narcissist does not intend to make that love, even if he seems to do so.
Step 2: the illusion
As the relationship progresses, empathy will feel that he has made real contact with someone and thinks he has met the love of his life. The narcissists will create the illusion that they fit in perfectly with the empath and will wear the facade they want from this relationship in the same way as the empathe if it’s really their goal to control.
Step 3: The manipulation
Over time, the narcissist will strive to break the self-esteem of empathy. They will never directly attack the empath, but they will say things and make comments that will question the empath’s decisions and abilities until the empath starts to doubt himself. At this point, the empathy will be weak and the narcissist will feel lucky enough to have it, creating an unhealthy addiction and allowing the narcissist to take control.
Step 4: All About Control
Once the narcissism has taken control, it will play the role of the victim, constantly exploiting the need for empathy to take care of her, to be there for her, to feel better, and so on. just and not to miss it. It becomes a constant cycle of manipulation.
Step 5: Fail
The empath will intend to love the narcissist, and he wants to do everything to heal the narcissist, because he does not see the narcissist’s wounds differently from his own. The reality is that narcissists do not believe that they are damaged, and that they are immune to love and therefore can not be healed by the honest and pure efforts of empath.
Step 6: The trap
The relationship is such that it is narcissism. It’s about their needs, their desires, their decisions, and so on. The empath will perform these extra hours, and they will be afraid to call on the narcissist and speak for themselves. Empathy hates hurting others and giving them a reason not to love them. Therefore, they will love narcissism for the moment, even if they found that they were unhappy in their relationship.
Step 7: The cycle
The more narcissists empathize, the more the narcissist feels controlled. They will continue their cycle of manipulation and will continue to drain and drain the empath without seeing any problem in the relationship, since nothing has changed, that is to say until the empath reaches its break.
Step 8: The layer
The empath will finally raise his voice and express himself because he can not stand the pejorative manners of the narcissist anymore. The empath will feel devastated, exhausted and exhausted because narcissism treats her, and he will also realize that her own emotional needs are not being met. The deception of the relationship will disappear and empathy will begin to resist the cycle of manipulation. The narcissist does not like this change of relationship.
Step 9: Never enough
Narcissists are people who need constant attention and do everything in their power to respond to this need, especially when it comes to relationships. They feel a sense of satisfaction only when people are obsessed with them and confirm their extended ego. You will always need more; It’s something that empath often does not understand.
Step 10: Back to level 3
When the empath begins to express his concerns, the narcissist will resign himself by closing it, claiming that the empath is “crazy” or “crazy” and completely invalidates his feelings. They will do so with the intention of breaking up the empath again and keeping it under his manipulative control.
Step 12: Who is the bad guy?
Empath does not understand that he is being manipulated again by the narcissist. They can not see that the way the narcissist makes them is simply the narcissist who closes the empath so they can keep control. At this point, the narcissist has made the empathetic feel like the villain in the relationship, prompting them to question their minds to the point where the empath does not recognize the truth.
Step 13: The blame game
Empath can make more attempts to express its concerns, but its efforts weaken as narcissism continues to close and devalue. Narcissism will continue to empathize to justify itself and keep control over the top of the relationship.
Step 14: retirement
The empath will naturally withdraw and try to work on the things he feels, and he thinks it’s normal to feel lost, defenseless and deeply hurt. It takes a long time to understand what is happening to them.
Step 15: Healing
Empaths are considered healers of society. They have the power and the ability to heal themselves, which makes them more than capable of mastering the challenges they face. They are just as capable of healing the people around them … as long as they make the choice and are ready to give their healing abilities.
Step 16: The realization
When empathy strives to heal itself, they will finally understand the bitter truth of what the narcissist has done to them and that they do not deserve their love, care, affection or ability to heal. They understand that anyone who puts a sad face is not authentic and really needs his caring hand. Empath must face the truth that not everyone who says “I love you” really means or even understands what it means.
Step 17: Who is the victim?
At this crucial moment, the empath will realize that he has been a victim of the relationship since the beginning, not narcissism.
Step 18: The end
If empath recognizes that narcissism will never change and nothing can be corrected, it will be a huge and often painful awakening for empath. However, this is an essential step that empath must take to help him get out of the terrible cycle of manipulation and control of the narcissist. They will be able to free themselves of the poisonous relationship to narcissism.
Step 19: The separation
Once the relationship is over, the narcissism will continue as if nothing had happened. You will not even remember the experience of empath’s love and attention.
Step 20: Continue
Narcissism will continue and find another victim to meet his needs.
Step 21: The breakthrough
The empath will have a lot more healing to do, but he will come out at the top and be stronger, wiser and more careful to whom he will give his love and solicitude.
Of course, this is not word for word, because the relationship between a empath and a narcissist is still spreading, but it happened again and again, so often in humans – in empathy – that it is possible to formulate a basic plan of something like this,
Be aware and be strong
The more we can become aware of the appearance of such relationships and narcissistic behavior, the more hopeful people become when narcissists enter their lives without knowing it.
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