19 Things to Start Doing for Yourself in the New Year
Instead of deciding, “I’m going to train three times a week,” I wrote, “I’d like my body and I’ll really do it by doing yoga, dancing, or doing other things that I do.” interested. ”
In order to stir up the imagination for the New Year, so that you are not in a hurry but drawn with pleasure, I have listed nineteen things you can do.
1. Concentrate on what you already have.
It’s easy to focus on scarcity. To focus on what you do not currently have in your life. In this society dominated by social media, hyper-commercial and filtered, a state of scarcity can often be the best of us. But as Oprah said, “Be grateful for what you have, you will end up with more.If you focus on what you do not have, you’ll never get enough.”
Abundance is not something you acquire. It is something for which you are prepared. So start remembering, focusing on what you are currently experiencing. This year, I will focus on the people I love, the fact that I’m doing well and that I know I’m responsible for where I live.
2. Start with your imagination to create.
Imagination is a powerful thing. He can show you the most catastrophic scenario where you can play, explore and create in your head. Your imagination can be either your best tool for realizing your dreams, or your biggest block.
Use it to create, not to destroy. Use it to raise the faith, not to doubt it. Use it to become a force of good for yourself and those around you. Instead of focusing on everything that might go wrong when starting your own business, imagine how satisfied you are and who can help you.
3. Start living in the present.
We often live in the past or the future. We are often so caught up in what has happened or what could happen that we lose sight of what is happening. Begin to live where life really takes place: here and now.
Use your senses to become present: feeling, hearing, seeing, tasting and touching. Say yes to what you are doing, as small as it may seem.
When you do the dishes, you do the most important thing in your life. When you transport yourself, you do the most important thing in your life. When you talk to someone, you do the most important thing in your life.
4. Start to ignore what others are doing.
It’s easy to get into the trap. Watch others and judge, accuse or regret. But we do not grow green grass by focusing on our neighbor’s garden. we do it by cultivating ours.
Do not compare your vision behind the scenes with the most beautiful moment of a human being. Instead, choose to honor your life by creating, investing and caring for it. Just keep track of your track.
5. Start being honest with yourself.
The only way to change something is to first recognize what is. To see the situation as it is, but no worse than it is. See your fears, limitations and constipation directly in your eyes.
What works and what does not work? What do you want to do that scares the trash? Think about what works and see how you can change what does not work. As they say, the truth will make you free. But first, it can hurt you or annoy you.
6. Start with better labels.
What glasses do you wear? The optimist, worried or I can not this couple? Our life experience depends on how we choose to look at things. Losing a job can be a problem or a great opportunity. A separation can mean the end or the beginning of something new.
Label things to give you more power. Turn a traumatic event into a blessing in disguise, a difficult situation into a challenge and a fresh start. Be the author of your experience.
7. Start by telling stories.
Build on the previous point and notice the stories that are going through your life right now. Maybe it concerns your parents, the financial situation or your state of health. The stories we tell determine us. Power stories create situations of power.
8. Concentrate on something bigger than yourself.
In life, we show what we do, how we do it, or why we do it. When the last (“why”) is defined, it brings meaning and purpose. What is your mission, change that you want to see or reason to pursue?
Participate in something bigger than you and explain why you do it adds to the goal. And if you do not know what’s bigger, you should know it.
9. Act as if you were taking care of yourself.
Are you really interested in yourself? Do you act, speak and treat yourself as the kind and loving person that you are? Because here’s the thing: we can not give what we do not have. Just as we must first wear our own oxygen mask when we fly, we must also take care of ourselves before we can take care of others.
Know that it is not selfish to place yourself first, it is necessary. Look at your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual aspects. What do you need more or less to feel good? Then, you care to take care of yourself (so that you can also give it from a real place).
10. Trust others to do their best.
Trust that everyone is doing their best, based on their experiences, beliefs and condition. The person who interrupts you in traffic may be in a hurry to return home to a sick relative. The person who has not delivered his project in time may feel heart pain. The person who was rude to you might have had a very bad day.
You never know what someone else is going through. So, instead of assuming they are doing their best, trust. Lead from a place of compassion and not judgment and avoid yourself (and others) unnecessary pain, anger and frustration.
11. Start asking better questions.
Questions like, “What can go wrong?” Or “What if I’m wrong?” Just do not have a positive answer. Your mind will look for the answer you ask for, so start wisely. Of course, you can ask them to know the worst scenario, but then move the focus.
As Tony Robbins said, “Quality problems create quality lives, and successful people ask better questions and get better answers.” Instead, ask questions such as “How can I succeed? ? “And” How to find the best solution to this situation? ”
12. Start taking care of really important things.
If you worry too much about judgment and criticism, you will usually be blocked and paralyzed unless you find things that interest you more.
For example, are you more interested in what others think or can live to live for themselves? Are you more interested in negative comments or are you a force of good in this world? Do not stifle your worry; Instead, look for things that really matter to you.
13. Have full confidence in yourself.
Like any other relationship, the relationship with oneself must be cared for, nurtured and maintained. If you are curious, intrigued or excited about something, believe that it happens for a reason. If you receive alarm signals about a person or situation, make sure that happens for a reason.
Start as if you trust yourself completely. Behave as if you were in total connection with your inner self and always guided. The more you act as if you trusted yourself, the more you will realize.
14. Begin to celebrate your obstacles.
“The obstacles do not block the path, they are the way.” When I first heard the zen proverb, I did not understand it. How could obstacles be the way? This idea of obstacles that do not interfere, but in reality the way seemed to me a foreign language.
But here’s what I discovered: wishes are powerful. Life always leads us to what we want, but blockages and fears will emerge to be seen and / or healed. So, if you are dealing with an obstacle like fear, do not avoid it. Instead, make your way through to solve it. Every obstacle you encounter brings you closer to your dreams.
15. Start solving your problems.
Once I heard someone say, “The problem is that we think we should not have one.” Problems might not always feel great, but they propel us forward. They shed light on what isn’t working so that we can find, explore, and investigate better solutions.
In moments of struggle, remind yourself that all over this planet, people are fighting for their survival. Acknowledge your problems but then shift toward finding a solution. What do you need to progress? Where and from whom can you gain clarity, confidence, and support to move forward?
16. Begin to embrace your vulnerability.
The vulnerability is scary. However, it is the gateway to growth, change and connection. This is the last thing we want to show in ourselves, but the first thing we look for in others. We can not exclude pain, shame and disappointment without also blocking love, growth and connection.
So, have the courage to see your deepest and most fragile parts. Let your heart open and there will be something beautiful: you can turn difficult feelings into love, power and compassion.
Last week, I met a girl in the shared workspace where I work. It was the second time we met, but I was urged to share my fight, it was not enough for my business and to feel people in my life. Apparently, she has had similar experiences. I felt relieved, strengthened and more connected with her than before.
17. Start spending time with the right people.
Which people do you spend the most time with? Do you give energy or dehydrate yourself? Friendships and relationships are not static. They are always moving. Set high standards and spend time with people you love.
Be sure to surround yourself with a tribe that reflects how you feel and what you want to be, what you want to do and what you want to have. If you do not have it today, make room for these people to enter your life.
18. Start with 100% responsibility for your life.
When I heard this for the first time, I did not feel well. But when I accepted, I was allowed. It is not easy to accept and accept responsibility for all aspects of your life (even if you feel behind, abused or abused). But that’s the only way to change it.
By assuming your responsibilities, you bring back your power where it belongs to you. As difficult as it may seem, you take full responsibility for your life. It’s not someone else who will take you where you want to go.
19. Start by creating the desired life.
It’s easy to move. Think: “If my situation is different, I will act according to my dream” or “As soon as I am in a relationship, I will begin to love myself.” But to live the life you do I wish you had to do it now, not in the future.
Conditions or timing will never be perfect. Instead, ask yourself: “If I had all the love, the money, the time, the confidence and the knowledge I wanted, how could I think, act, and feel?” Enter this version of yourself.
Take baby steps in the direction of life you desire
To get where you want to go, you have to go in that direction. Do not see it as a sprint, but as a marathon. How can you create a manageable and enjoyable year in which not pressure, but pleasure is a pioneer?
Do not train too much by setting too ambitious goals and do not expect everything to be perfect. (They are never). Concentrate on one to three points on the list. If you feel comfortable with one domain, you move on to another. Remember that consistency exceeds intensity.
This is the year you fight for success!