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7 subtle signs your partner isn’t happy in your relationship any more

7 subtle signs your partner isn’t happy in your relationship any more

No matter how serious your relationship is,, the feeling of not knowing what your partner’s thinking is something everyone can all relate to. But let’s face it, it’s mentally exhausting trying to decode every text or dissect every conversation. And then there’s the dilemma of whether you should say something or not? Will doing so start a fight if there really is nothing going on?

It’s impossible to know exactly what someone else is thinking without them telling you of course. However, luckily, there are a few subtle signs an uninterested partner may exhibit.

INSIDER spoke with three professional dating coaches to understand a bit more what you can look for.

1. You and your partner are not communicating in the same way.

Talk to your partner to determine why they have changed the way they communicate.

If you and your partner were serial texters and suddenly there is radio silence on their end, or you’ve always updated your other half via Snapchat and now they’re just going unanswered, something may be up.

“In today’s social media world, I think you can definitely take cues from their online activity,” said Lori Salkin, the senior matchmaker at SawYouAtSinai.com and dating coach. “If your partner was always liking your photos and all of a sudden nothing, or they were always sending you Snapchats and suddenly you’re getting ghosted, you can sense that distancing,” she told INSIDER.

According to Salkin, these could be signs that they are unhappy with something. Of course, it’s not necessarily you. Salkin stresses that when communication between you and your partner goes down, you shouldn’t jump to conclusions too quickly. “If you’re still committed to the relationship, be patient. They could be feeling distant because of a deadline at work, or a family matter, or something personal that’s bothering them. You don’t necessarily know.”

2. Your conversations are completely one-sided.

A disengaged partner isn’t a good sign.
According to online dating coach Joshua Pompey, you should pay attention to if your partner seems disengaged.

“If you’re trying to talk to your boyfriend but he’s on his phone or playing video games the entire time, he may be physically there, but he’s not really present,” Pompey told INSIDER. “That disengaged feeling can be a red flag that something bigger is the problem.”

If you’re having a conversation with someone you’re supposedly in a relationship with, there shouldn’t be any doubt that they want to talk to you, too.

3. Your intimacy level changes.

Sex could happen less frequently for a number of reasons.
“It’s natural for people to have less ѕєχ when they’re in a long, serious relationship but if it’s slowing down just as it’s supposed to be picking up, that could mean one partner isn’t as invested in the relationship as they should be,” Pompey explained.

Of course, this isn’t the only reason they might not be interested in ѕєχ . It could be caused by a low ѕєχ ∂яινє or stress outside the relationship. The important thing is to communicate with your partner.

4. There is no follow up.

Your partner should follow through on their promises.
If all those hypothetical plans are not coming to fruition, it may be time to have a heart to heart.
“If you and your partner had talked about spending holidays with your family or going to friends and you’re waiting for all the planning to happen and then it’s just not, it could be they’re avoiding the confrontation,” Salkin explained.

5. They’re super temperamental around you.

Mood changes in your partner might be a sign they are unhappy.
“A lot of times if someone is unhappy in a relationship the things that would normally bother them are enhanced by their own personal unhappiness,” Pompey explained. “This could be due to the dissatisfaction in the relationship or underlying resentment, and they it could just be projecting their unhappiness on the other person to no fault of their own.”

If you are noticing major mood changes in your partner, or you two are arguing all the time over silly things, chances are your partner is feeling a certain level of unhappiness in the relationship.

6. They’re hanging out with friends more than with you

Friend time is important, but it’s also important to make time for your partner.
No matter how serious your relationship is, it’s always important for each partner to have their separate friends and life outside of the one they are building with the person they are dating. But, if you feel like your partner is hanging out their friends and showing no interest in making time for you, this could be a problem.
“I’ve noticed that when partner time decreases and friend time increases it usually means someone in the relationship is unhappy about something,” Pompey shared.

7. They’re canceling plans more often than usual.

Communication is key.

When you feel like your partner may be unhappy, it’s best to talk it out in a heart to heart. Not only will this make your feelings known to them, but it’ll also give you a chance to really get an idea about their true feelings.

“If after you’ve talked things out and they’re still not changing than they’re not really in this with you,” Pompey explained. “If they’re just doing things because you asked and there is a lot of denial of issues and excuses, you just got a big clue as to their true feelings about the relationship.”